Monday, December 06, 2004
how long have we been chasing someone elses idea of beauty?
I really like the messages that those dove commercials send out - that you don't have to be skinny and blonde to be beautiful...and yet our society just doesn't get it. There was an article in the paper today about their one "fat or fab" ad...and really the girl in that ad, i would definetly not consider fat. Basically, they took a poll of people in toronto's opinion or her (as in she was "fat" or "fab") and the majority of people called her "fat". Now, i realize our society has an obsession with being skinny - but have you ever noticed how females seem to get the brunt of it? honestly, people care more (i'm not saying only) about females being skinny than males. You don't usually see anythign about any famous males apparent weight problems in the media. Apparently even brintney spears has a "belly" in some form or another right now, and the objective of some show that kirsty alley is in/producing is for her to lose a certian amount of weight in order to keep it on the air. umm, excuse me? since when was britney even close to being a healthy weight? I just can't see what has happened to our society that makes us believe we have to be skinny to be beautiful. What happened to the curvy marilyn monroe image of the past? Which brings up another point - i know guys seem kinda shallow, and just want "hot" girls...but (maybe this is just wishful thinking on my part) wouldn't you think guys have different views of what they see as hot? or are they just settling for something, b/c they have tried to do "better" and failed? If the latter is NOT the case, then how else do you explain normal average people dating and marrying and reproducing with other normal average people?
as kinda an aside, I'm sure some of you have heard of the ladder theory...but if not - read it here: http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html I'm interested to see if you think it has any truth in it...b/c im kinda sitting on the fence about it. I mean, (after you read it, this will make sense) I can see myself having two so called ladders, but i'm still confused on the whole thing with guys being your friend without wanting sleep with you - i may have to read it again, to further this observation - but we'll see.
so really, why are we letting society decide what we should think is attractive. I mean, i know some, what i would call bigger girls (but not b/c they over eat and are "fat" - they are just bigger.), who i think are gorgeous...one in particular that comes to mind is in really good shape, played sports through high school - and yet some would call her fat, and think that she doesn't take care of herself, and eats unhealthly etc. What gives society the right to influence people so much that they judge to no end people without even knowing anything except what they can tell just from looking at a picture of someone?
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on a totally different topic - it finally looks like december here - though i'm not a fan of how cold it is!!!
My parents, brother and grandma came up this weekend to visit for my birthday, and to come to my band concert. My dad ended up getting me a new stereo for my birthday (i have had my old one for oh...7 or 8 years, and only one speaker works) which is so amazing! I love it!! and my mom cooked for me lasagna and garlic bread - oh man such good food. It was kinda funny - i ended up staying the night in the hotel with them on a cot in the room that my grandma was in...its kinda hard to explain but it was kinda like a sleepover with her - chatting for a few minutes in the dark (I can't really explain what it was like...it was just neat, i guess). My concert was alot of fun, we did really awesome, and she even gave the flute section a feature piece b/c there are so many of us (14) and we are just amazing lol. Anyway....now comes the fun part exam after exam...though not before i actually go out and celebrate my birthday this wednesday (which also happens to be lava's bday - happy bday hun!! i miss you!!!) at earls (mmm belini night!! ) and then out to the standard after!!! yay!
note to cascade: i will try and write you in my study "breaks" (aka procrastination), but if not, i will see you at christmas, and write you back in the new year - school has just been crazy lately...my hand just can't handle much extra writing right now...but i will try - i promise!!!!
as kinda an aside, I'm sure some of you have heard of the ladder theory...but if not - read it here: http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html I'm interested to see if you think it has any truth in it...b/c im kinda sitting on the fence about it. I mean, (after you read it, this will make sense) I can see myself having two so called ladders, but i'm still confused on the whole thing with guys being your friend without wanting sleep with you - i may have to read it again, to further this observation - but we'll see.
so really, why are we letting society decide what we should think is attractive. I mean, i know some, what i would call bigger girls (but not b/c they over eat and are "fat" - they are just bigger.), who i think are gorgeous...one in particular that comes to mind is in really good shape, played sports through high school - and yet some would call her fat, and think that she doesn't take care of herself, and eats unhealthly etc. What gives society the right to influence people so much that they judge to no end people without even knowing anything except what they can tell just from looking at a picture of someone?
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on a totally different topic - it finally looks like december here - though i'm not a fan of how cold it is!!!
My parents, brother and grandma came up this weekend to visit for my birthday, and to come to my band concert. My dad ended up getting me a new stereo for my birthday (i have had my old one for oh...7 or 8 years, and only one speaker works) which is so amazing! I love it!! and my mom cooked for me lasagna and garlic bread - oh man such good food. It was kinda funny - i ended up staying the night in the hotel with them on a cot in the room that my grandma was in...its kinda hard to explain but it was kinda like a sleepover with her - chatting for a few minutes in the dark (I can't really explain what it was like...it was just neat, i guess). My concert was alot of fun, we did really awesome, and she even gave the flute section a feature piece b/c there are so many of us (14) and we are just amazing lol. Anyway....now comes the fun part exam after exam...though not before i actually go out and celebrate my birthday this wednesday (which also happens to be lava's bday - happy bday hun!! i miss you!!!) at earls (mmm belini night!! ) and then out to the standard after!!! yay!
note to cascade: i will try and write you in my study "breaks" (aka procrastination), but if not, i will see you at christmas, and write you back in the new year - school has just been crazy lately...my hand just can't handle much extra writing right now...but i will try - i promise!!!!
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